How many times do we choose one of the first three ways to approach a problem instead of choosing the fourth way? What has been your experience with these four approaches in the life of the church?
Here is an excerpt from Pastor Rick's sermon:
In their book, Speaking the Truth in Love, Ruth Koch and Kenneth Haugk describe four approaches to admonition.
- In the passive approach – one might ignore a person’s spiritual dangers.
- In the aggressive approach – one might attack or be insensitive to the person
- In the passive aggressive approach – one may look to draw a person out through inappropriate remarks
The authors do not recommend any of these ways.
They suggest the assertive approach – in this approach one offers direct, respectful, and kind words of support. The assertive approach respects the person being admonished and does not try to force or manipulate change. In this way people are able to work openly and honestly with each other while being sensitive to the situation.