I gave my four year old grand
daughter a gift on Tuesday,Christmas Day. I reminded her that we would see her
again on Friday night. She asked me if I would give her another present when I
saw her then! I said that there would
probably be one more gift...
Today we have “one more gift” to add to those we have opened during this Advent. Our nativity set reminds
us of those gifts we have talked about: Mary with her sense of
expectation; Joseph with his trusting
acceptance; the shepherds who found the gift of family; the innkeeper who gave
the gift of himself; and the gift from God, Jesus, the world's hope. However,
we are not quite finished with unwrapping presents.
This last gift has a fashion
theme. Speaking of fashion, have you
noticed all the Christmas sweaters today in worship? Some are quite unique. We do notice what
people wear. Sometimes we even become
known for what we wear: a bow tie, a
hat, a certain kind of shoes. It becomes our trademark.
As followers of Christ, we also have a trademark in our appearance.
Paul writing in his letter to the
Colossians provides us with a fashion
tip.
We are “to put on” or wear
compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness. And to complete the outfit, he suggests
putting on love. These seven words are
connected because they all have to do with relationships. Compassion is seen in
an attitude of caring with mercy.
Kindness is evident in the way we look or speak to another person.
Humility is having a self-contentment of heart.
Gentleness is an appreciation for how fragile another soul may be. Patience is revealed in a persistent
openness. Forgiveness is not seeking revenge or pay back. Love is seeking the
best for the other person and desiring what God would want for them.
These intentional attitudes
and actions are as obvious as the clothes that we wear.
Single
mom Kim Kerswell thought getting into a
fender-bender was the worst thing that could have happened to her this
December. It turned out to be something quite different. Kim works at a Panera
Bread outside Boston . She rear ended another car in the parking lot
which belonged to Sherene Borr.
As the two women exchanged information, the young mom told Sherene that she was struggling to make ends meet,
and raising two kids on her own. Sherene felt that that there was genuine need here and she
wanted to respond. Surprisingly, she
sent Kim a text later in the day which said she wanted to help give her family
a Christmas!
Not
only did she forgive any damages to her
car, Sherene with other friends is
making sure that Kim is stocked with
groceries, gift cards, and toys and clothes for her kids. Both hope that their
friendship will continue after Christmas . It sounds as if Sherene was wearing
the right outfit of clothes that day: compassion, kindness, forgiveness. She
had put on all that was needed and had
tied it up with love.
Who is well dressed in God's
eyes? What is your style? To relate to
other folks with love, to recognize them as children of God with their own
dignity, to see them as worthy of our time and
actions is quite a spiritual
fashion statement. This wardrobe does not come naturally. We are prone to be self-centered, distant, critical,
and impatient.
Consciously we have to decide each day how we
are going to treat each other. Allow God to pick out what we are wearing. In
everyday encounters, we can be signs of
God's love in this world.
Nell
Mohney is a motivational speaker, and writer. She was the author of the Upper
Room Advent booklet we used here some years ago. In this Advent collection she wrote of experiencing the power of God's
love through her family. When she was a
junior in high school, she had a Christmas season job downtown and would window shop as she
went to work. In the window of a dress shop was the most beautiful green coat
she had ever seen and she wanted that
coat more than anything. One day she even tried it on and it just fit. The
price tag was over the top. She shared about the coat at home but with the family's tight finances it was not going to be a reality.
Each one understood that Christmas would be limited that year.
On Christmas Eve when she passed by the
store,the coat was gone. She asked
inside and was told that it had been
sold. She prayed that whoever got it would love it as much as she had. Her
family had a subdued opening of presents
on Christmas morning. It became apparent that there was one more gift under the
tree, and it was for Nell. Opening the box, Nell discovered the
green coat!
She
found out later that her mother had sold her watch and others in the family had
agreed to cheaper gifts in order that she could have this coat. She
wore the coat for many years. It represented such sacrificial love from
her family. When she wore it, she felt
wrapped in her mother's love and in a greater sense, by God's love that was
hard to comprehend. Her soul was nourished for life by that love.
Love
is a frequent verb in the Scriptures. We are to love God, we are to love our
neighbors as we love ourselves, we are even to love our enemies. We are to treat others as we would like to be treated ourselves.
Paul considers love as the greatest action over any other gift.
At
the end of the Gospel of John, we have
the story of Peter, Jesus' disciple,
being questioned about his love
by Jesus. He answered”Lord, you know I love you. Jesus said “Make it visible by feeding my
sheep. Take care of one of my children , may they realize my love
through you.”
When
we are in the midst of irritating situations with difficult people, perhaps
this is where God is provoking us into seeing
how much more we need to grow in our love for one another ! In those
moments where our patience is stretched and our kindness runs out, it becomes
apparent that we need God to refresh the
wardrobe of our hearts, to give us a makeover.
God has been so generous with love. What are we doing with the love God
gave us?
A man was reminiscing about his childhood. He
said: “The saddest words I remember from
holidays came in my grandparents living room- when all the presents were
unwrapped, the cleanup nearly done and my dad tapped me on the shoulder to say”
Son, let's go; Christmas is over” .
However,
he said, we know that isn't true. We
know better. Christ came to be with us, to “abide with us.” , to be
Emmanuel. After all the presents and
the food, when we are back in the routine, (at work ,at school) when life is
back to normal, Christ is with us.
Christ
is here filling us, guiding us, “dressing us”,empowering us to express the
message of Christmas every day of the year.
With each encounter with another person, his love can be visible.
Christmas is not over.
So
I guess we have one more present to open and need to see what is in the
box!
(Present
is opened to reveal a Christmas sweater. On the back is the word “Love”.)
Love
may sometimes feels like it is the wrong size, scratchy, or not appropriate, or
even embarrassing, out of place,but it is our trademark.
Listen
to the reading from Colossians once again:
From
The Message: Every item of your new way of life is custom made by the Creator.
With his label on it. All the old fashions are obsolete. So chosen by God for this new life of love,
dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility,
quiet strength, discipline. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master
forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It's your
basic, all purpose garment. Never be without it.